PASSING THROUGH GRIEF WITH GRACE
My dearest ones I understand your sorrow, and the grief you feel at the passing of a loved one, a dear animal, or if you have experienced a relationship that has come to its end. Grief comes in many forms, too many to mention here, but if grief in whatever way has touched you, know that it will in time become one of your greatest blessings.
To feel grief you must have experienced love, and it is the feeling of never ever being able to love again that can cause you to feel so alone. But the human spirit is strong, much stronger than you might believe in this moment, but trust me as I have experienced this when my beloved son was hung upon the cross.
I knew he was working with God to bring a new consciousness to mankind, but as the mother of a beautiful son I did not find this at all easy, and I too called out to God many times during this period of my greatest grief. He told me to hang on, and said to me and that a miracle was about to occur, and so it was in time I was able to see that my son had been returned to me, but this time in a completely different form.
This experience is possible for you too, as you can experience your loved one who has passed in many ways. You may hear a whisper, you may feel his/her presence, or smell a distinct perfume that reminds you of them or the perfume of their favourite flower. So whatever method they choose to let you know they are near you, believe they can come back to comfort you in a specific way that will be relevant to you both.
But when you are set so deeply within your grief it is easy for you to miss the signs that your loved ones are near you as the loss you feel is so overwhelming, especially if your love has been as deep and true as mine. But please understand that given a chance they will always strive to be with you, and will be a witness to your life without them.
They will understand the torture you felt when having to make difficult decisions that you took on their behalf, but they wish to reassure you that you did the right thing, especially considering all the difficulties that surrounded your person’s passing.
And although each person’s story is unique, there is a running thread that many of you experience and that is the feeling of guilt. Be assured that this is quite unnecessary, as most of the time events were beyond your control, especially when the person you loved took their own life. I know this is one of the hardest situations to bear, but you must respect the decision they made, and not see it as a direct reflection of your relationship.
So many people who pass over come to me to get closure and a better understanding of their life on earth. I am able to comfort them so they can understand the reason why they took their own life or became sick. They are concerned how they left things with you, so I able to reassure them, as well as you, that all is well. And even though you have lost the physical presence of your loved one, you have not lost their love, or their regard for you.
And even if your relationship had its difficulties, or if there was blame or recrimination during their earthly life, be assured that this was for a reason. When they pass over this is explained to them in more detail as they are able to review their Akashic records, and so understand that what took place was part of their divine plan.
So if your beloved passed abruptly, and if there were any cross words spoken between you that now hang in the air, know that they want you to forgive them for any misdeamours, and you should forgive yourself for anything that was said, that you now might regret.
The most important thing for both of you to understand is that the time you spent together has gone. And although you are apart physically, the connection will always be with you, and when it is your time to pass, you will be reunited. In the meantime know that they are at peace, and they wish you to be at peace knowing that they still love you. They want you to pick up the threads of your life once more, knowing that they are overseeing every detail, and wish you ‘bon voyage’ as they see all the new opportunities coming towards you. So do not put your life on hold, but try to accept that it will never be the same, and by accepting this rather than resenting it, it will help you find peace of mind once more.
So when you pray at night and think of your loved one in spirit, try to find the grace to let them go, even if you have to admit you might have done some things wrong, know that you did your best and now you can let God do the rest. When you are able to be in a state of grace, this acceptance will bring you closer to source, and open the door so communication can come forth to comfort you in your time of need. They too will have a greater understanding of the purpose of their incarnation on earth, and will be able to accept all was perfect and many lessons were learnt during that time.
It is easy to judge how others live their life, but do not be so quick either to judge them or indeed yourself. You might not realise the impact your person had, and you may hear many stories of their goodness and mercy that you were not aware of and how their words gave courage to others in their time of need.
Many people who have passed have led very full and productive lives almost right up to the moment of their transition, and they may have been planning even more projects before they moved on. Do not feel sorrowful but know they will continue their work albeit in a slightly different way. For instance if they were a healer on earth they will be expanding their healing work in heaven, and you may be a beneficiary of receiving healing for yourself. If they were successful business people, or were ones that cared about the environment or animals, their skills and passion will still be used but now in a slightly different way.
So try not to fret if they passed early in life particularly if you feel that they did not have the chance to complete their life’s work. Know their God given gifts will be used to great affect and for the good of mankind, but this time from a higher dimension. So if you can gracefully accept this as being true, it will give you a broader perspective that will allow you to move on, knowing they are safe and loved in heaven above.
Grace is acceptance, Grace is being able to trust God for the highest and best outcome, and Grace is accepting God’s will for your loved ones, as well as yourself. So step into Grace, and say ‘Thy will be done dear Lord’, and let the peace of his love and understanding come into your heart for evermore.
Mary, Mother of our Lord Jesus Christ
Anna Marie Croxson 6th December, 2022©